It felt moving and celebratory rather than sad. I display pictures of both of them but only a few and it only look at them at certain times when I am up to it. Luckily my husband of 30 years is ok with it. JamJar, I ache for your mother, possibly it was a time when her son was whipped away from her , she never touched his little hands or cheek , he wasn't really dead because she didn't see him , wasn't allowed to grieve , perhaps even told - you will have more , her son was just a statistic , a still birth . If people think I am crazy, well perhaps I am; it really doesn’t matter.
), but equally with our sincere condolences for the person or people that you’ve lost that can’t be there to share it with you. Doretta Johnson June 18, 2014 at 1:42 pm Reply. This is the pic from FB that started the thread. I lost my husband of 45 years in January 2018. And they’ll no doubt feel joy and gratitude for the role that the person played in your life. Her and dad, them and my granddaughter but afraid she will say something negative as that’s her MO. This is often the case with the death of a young child or baby, when someone has been distant or estranged, if the family photos were lost or destroyed, or if the person was just generally camera shy. I have his pictures everywhere and more… No computer remained untrue, I have always been an avid photo buff and I am so glad. I have pictures of my son all over the house and big frames I love looking at them I wish I had more space on my house walls I love when people look at them and I could never take them down I even have an alter for him a big one and it even lights up at night its beautiful im sure my son loves it . I have pictures on my phone of my deceased wife. This lady said its bad for my mother in law, she had breast cancer last year, and has recovered, so I dont see what the big deal is. So it is hard to look at his pictures that they display, especially when I am caught off guard and not expecting it. I am sure that having photos of a stillborn child is healthy and helpful. Australian Website Design - Jala. She died suddenly in June of 2015 after a lifelong battle with type 1 diabetes. And how do I deal with everything from this point forward.?? I am a psychotherapist at a Doctorate Level, but someone would be lying to you if they say that we can get used to death of loosing our loved ones. When it came to our wedding speeches, I spoke only briefly about how I wished my dad could be there, how much he would’ve enjoyed the day and how glad he was that I had met Chris.
Speak to your son in law and encourage counseling.
I have his picture in a frame.
But your daughter is not going to know or understand any problems you may have with him. And I just feel he hasn’t moved on yet because of having his pics and it makes me really feel bad and weird. My older brother, for example, is a history buff. I find it very odd, not to say macabre.
He will get to hearing a song look at her picture and start crying. I had to put all photos and memorabilia away in a closet and avoid walking past the closet. Losing a child is earth-shattering. She’s 6 now and has a good understanding of who her grandparents are through photos and talking about them. When we got home I forget the picture on my brother’s car. They never met my mother, but they know she was a horrible person. I have kept his photos up, *but* it is difficult sometimes to look through photo albums with his pictures. I feel guilty, also knowing he has a 5 year anniversary of his passing coning. Or you could have your partner or bridesmaids say words on your behalf. My dad died more recently so I’ve noticed the “pain” is more acute when I look at his pictures than with my boyfriend who died 10 years ago. It makes me stronger, , Joneric T Veales April 26, 2019 at 9:03 am Reply, I am writing to all of you because right now I need my friends and whom ever more than I ever have. Has anyone else experienced this is their grief process? I said yes dad you’ll coming home as soon as the rain stop…he stare at me and began to cry. I lost my 2 sisters and their 5 children during the typhoon that hit Philippines of November 2013. I talk to them frequently, light candles or have battery operated ones, every morning and turn off every night. Patricia September 27, 2018 at 4:13 pm Reply. Marie August 21, 2019 at 12:07 pm Reply. He starts therapy next week. Not only that but as the mother to your children you have a moral duty to put their needs first and part of that is honouring the father they loved at least enough to allow a picture of him to be around. The differences, grandfather and sister posed stiffly at the photographers in their Sunday best and the informal pic of my grandchildren about to burst into laughter are striking. Neither is right or wrong, as long as you are doing it for yourself! My son died just a little over three years ago. I have a small number of photographs of my mother from when I was a kid – early 70s.
Eleanor Haley July 26, 2017 at 7:53 pm Reply. Its amazing idid this with my mother she never met her grandkids and since they are older I put a pic of all her grandkids n added her in it, Grace December 12, 2018 at 9:30 am Reply. And to you as well this is selfish and unnecessary, because your past together, whether good or bad, created and brought into the world children … And you alone as the mother have to watch them grieve the loss of knowing their father and as a mother when your children hurt so do you. While it doesn’t pay to get angry, no one gets to say anything about how I live my life.
Presume it's ok to post as its already on a public forum. Is it a catholic thing or a mexican myth. My husband and I always displayed photos of us everywhere throughout the house. I miss him and I feel better seeing his face daily in my home . Hey guys, Amy here. Lol Jings! I pray god gives you peace and understanding. I will be praying for you and that you are able to make helpful decisions. But at the same time I just feel it’s wrong to have them too considering a serious relationship. <3. My faith in the Holy farther is still strong I believe I hope . I have her pictures out so I can see them. He did talk about his good and bad times with her and few things about her casually in a talk and I do encourage him because it makes him open up to me and also he would feel better. That way neither of them miss out. I have now placed lots of pictures of him and the two of us around the apartment. "To avoid confusion pics are of them when they're alive."Phew!!! I only have one of their them 3 their dad and my kids and I’m not in the picture. She was a wonderful woman and a big loss for my wife, my 4 year old daughter and myself. I’m ready to see them displayed there in the hall. I always heard in church that in heaven we are our perfect selves so I imagine my mother to now look like that picture she loved in heaven. Instead, we decided to acknowledge and honour dad in a way that felt deeply relevant (espesh for anyone that knew my dad) by incorporating a toast of white port into our ceremony.